Since the 1920s one of the staples of American dating has been dinner and movie, and it has become the expected night out for many couples. For teenagers and people who have been dating a very long time this is perfectly acceptable, but for new relationships and older daters the dinner and a movie cliché needs to be avoided at all costs. You can challenge that traditional date idea by following some simple tips for dates in a new relationship.
Try New Times
One of the reasons that dinner and a movie has been so common is that the majority of dates happen in the evening and it seems like the most logical thing to do. You go out, grab a bite to eat, and then go watch a movie together. One good way to break out of the cliché is to change the time of the date or go out at an unexpected time. Weekend lunch dates are a perfect way to transform the tone of the date and allow you to do things that you would not otherwise be able to do. A stroll through the Arboretum or down to one of the zoos is only possible when you do so during the daytime, and these are the kinds of things that can make for a more memorable date with your significant other. Even first dates can benefit from an earlier time, as it allows you to transition to additional activities or spend more time together if things are going well. Also consider trying to schedule a date on something other than a Friday or Saturday night, as the best places to take your date are going to be less crowded on a Wednesday night than they would be on a weekend.
The worst thing that you can do on a date is stay inactive or passive, as it either puts too much pressure on the two of you to keep talking or it means sitting in silence. This is the reason why concerts and movies can be a struggle for new couples, and many potentially good relationships end prematurely. Things like the Murder Mystery Texas dinner theater provide the perfect balance between activity and inactivity for you and your date. There is still enough downtime that you and your date are able to get to know each other a little bit, but the interactive design of the event ensures that there is always something else going on as well. When there is a lull in the conversation you do not have to worry about awkward silences, and this will make your date a lot more fun.
Avoid Big Crowds
Having other people around might make both of you more comfortable, but the noise and distraction the others create can be detrimental to your date. A bowling alley is the prime example of this problem. It seems like a good date idea, as it lets you be active and still have time to talk, but there is a really good chance that you will be stuck next to people on other lanes that are loud or distracting. A more balanced date idea is something like mini golf. You still have other people around to provide some background noise and topics of conversation, but you and your date will still spend most of your time with just the two of you getting to know each other.
Dating should be fun, and at the end of the date you should both walk away with a smile and some good memories. Take time to plan the date, put effort in to what you schedule and your dates will be much more successful.
I am Vince Noth and I have been married for thirty years. I wrote this article because my sons just started dating and they asked for some advice about what to do and I thought others might benefit from my insight.
Ok, here is the deal. I usually post upbeat and inspiring things. Well, this post is not upbeat because I am pissed. But it is inspiring. I ordered a tablet (Trio 10.1) online at walmart.com for my son right before Christmas. When I got it, I found it to be defective. The first thing I thought of was to contact the manufacturer- no luck with that. It was a website with a bunch of links that went nowhere and phone numbers that were never answered. So, I did the next natural thing which was to take it back to where I got it for an exchange. I took it to 5 of the surrounding stores around me just to be told -We don’t carry that model in store. It was a Black Friday special- SO! then I asked for a refund and the response was -I’m sorry ma’am. The system won’t let me scan it. You need to return it online.-
Here is the fun part. After battling numerous glitches with their online return system, I finally got a return label to print. It didn’t have an external tracking number or receipt to email just a RTS label. (Remember this because it is an important part of the story) So, I slapped it on the box and about 5 days later I got a shiny new tablet in the mail. I was so happy because it came much sooner than I’d expected. Since it was just after Christmas my son was stoked to open it. WELL…it was defective too in the same way. I guess they got a bad shipment or something. Hmm, I already knew I couldn’t exchange it or get a refund from the store because I tried that with the first one. Therefore, the only thing I could think to do was send it back again.
Now it gets even better. Their online return system wouldn’t let me print a return label for the replacement tablet because according to the order history the replacement has zero value. The refund eligible amount was zero and no label to be had for replacement. I discussed with customer care and they keep redirecting me back to online returns because for some reason they were too stupid to understand my dilemma. So, I went back to the online return system and realized that I could print off a label for the original order. My gut told me that something was strange about that but I was desperate. Sigh…I printed another label and slapped it on the box and guess what? Yep, they lost it. I contacted them several times and they keep saying- Ma’am it shows in our system that we already sent you a replacement. If you sent us another one, can you give us the tracking number?-
ARRGHH What tracking number? They never gave me one. They are the ones who have it. The return center had to notice something strange when they received and processed another package with same code. I asked them to research and see where it went, to contact the return center, or give me someone else to talk to. They said-I’m sorry ma’am we cannot contact the return center- ?!?! What?! Are these people even working for the same company? At the end of the day, I am here looking like a dumbass with no tablet and no $100 because I was stupid enough to trust walmart to have good business practices.
Ok, here is the inspirational part. Don’t let companies bend you over and &@#$ you in the ass. I will get my money and this is my first step towards getting it-social media awareness. My next step is filing a complaint with the bbb. Yes, I know it was only a $100 and not the end of the world. But, it was also my son’s Christmas gift and my hard work gone down the drain. So, yeah, I’m mad. If you are mad for me, feel free to share this with your network.
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